okay
I am going to nip this in the bud
so to speak
The Guilt List
I feel guilty when.....
I don't bake enough
I don't have food prepared
for company in my freezer
When someone vents out loud I think it is my fault or somehow
I screwed up
When someone vents out loud I think it is my fault or somehow
I screwed up
I read too many books, am I lazy?
I should of hugged my boys more when they were little
Because, I am not much for hugging
When I don't have anything planned for the day, or several days
When I am not making friends
When I use money incorrectly
When I do not have as much energy as other women seem to
When I cannot patch up the past and have to just live in the present
When my neck gets stiff and I once again have to slow down and relax
The Guilt Resolved List
in my senior retirement years I have resolved this.....
- My self-talk is positive
- My confidence is based on my Guilt List (above) - if no guilt ....I can move forward, plan some fun...et al
- Christmas comes around and I know I love buying a live tree and bringing it home and watching it thaw out to see what shape it will actually be. Decorations are minimal. I know once that tree is in the house the guilt about cooking, baking and performing traditional meals is always a work through process for me. I don't feel guilty anymore because I know what I love that time of year. Lights! I speak my mind to my family about what I need this time of year and I know that it is appreciated - "Don't shrink, don't puff up, just stand my sacred ground!
my mother-in-law made a statement to me
many years ago when my boys were toddlers and I was really
not coping well. She said "Donna, everything will pass in time". Sometimes
I remembered those words and sometimes I didn't.
I know there is more guilt that crops up depending on
timely events and things misinterpreted among people
I trust myself and have a purpose in life to
be truthful to my nature and then things do fall into place
with guilt or no guilt. We cannot get back to the past, even if I try I just can't get there!
Have you ever written down your guilt list?
1 comment:
I have never even thought of doing this, but that doesn't mean I'm no stranger to guilt!
- when I don't cook. It's a real task for me. I don't enjoy it.
- if I'm not patient enough with the boys
- if I do anything just for me I feel guilty. If I go anywhere without the boys (which is rare) I feel guilty (and I miss them)
- if I don't want to be social because I'm an introvert
- if I feel like I don't do enough (enough activities with kids, a clean enough house, get behind ever on anything)
Guilt is tough. I like thinking about how I'm going to beat feeling bad and guilty! That's a good list I need to make too!
You're a gem, Donna
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