a month early birthday - adjusting grief

I am 70 years old soon.  Celebrating now for 2 reasons:

My son is visiting and he can watch me blow out candles and eat birthday cake!!

Next month is my "get-away month". 

Will be traveling to Saskatoon, Brandon and then Banff, Alta

My birthday is also 2 days after my son Graham's birthday (who has passed on.)  It is always a 

bit complicated with that timing.  Grief always lingers though your healing is as good as it will be.

I can enjoy my candles and cake more this month,.

 I like to adjust the regular celebrations in life so I can enjoy and relish some gratefulness when these days come.  

I learned, from my loss, my grief, sadness, or anger ,whatever strikes me at certain times, is this:

I love more carefully.

You never get over it; 

You just get through it.

 

March drags on...here are some Choices Tools

I am not going crazy. I just like to jump!  Okay .....March is a problem for me.

 It messes with my mind.  Dramatic weather, snow not melted, warms up, gets cold. 

 This month always lives up to its dramatic truth.

Here are some Choices Tools (Choices Seminar 2010)

What I fear.... I create.

Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

What is the worst thing that will happen?

Life is a journey, NOT a destination.

The quality of your life depends on the questions You ask yourself.

Take care of yourself so you can care for others.

If better is possible, is good good enough?

Successful people do the things other people don't.

I acknowledge your position _ this is my position.

BE Committed, to DO what it takes, to HAVE what you want.

green life is here soon

unfurling,

fresh

bright

green

leaf

a new leaf 

for a new spring year!

 

blog title day vs news headline

The tricky thing about blogging is the title.  It must capture the content of the post.  It's like a news headline.

This picture is my theme.  It represents a healthy moment for myself.  Slowly eating, calming down.  A question of:  What am I doing today?   Do I require an interaction with anyone?  How much of the day is for blogging, painting, reading, photo shooting, prepare a meal, working out, napping. (Add your own tasks).  Its endless how one can use the day.  

 

Snow blowing

Living on an acreage in winter means plenty of snow blowing time.  

 

 

Fur and frost

We have frost right now.  It is on everything, even our horse.

 

Waiting like the forest

“Can’t see the forest for the trees” is a common statement during a time of feeling overwhelmed. 

Winter time in a beautiful national park is more beautiful than the other seasons.   Why?  It gives hope for better times ahead. The forest waits patiently. 

 

January bulb

 Pretty much what January brings at times.  The dark blues and wanting warm sun, no snow, and green grass to come sooner.   This Christmas light bulb is a favorite as the color is richer when the lights are not on during the day. 

The Merry Christmas

If Christmas is a big family gathering that you look forward to each year that is a good thing!

  It has been cold this Christmas and it has kept our small family indoors. 

The twinkle tour is a yearly outing. It is created at our regional park just out of the city.  Lots of hard work to get this up each year. 

Christmas is going well. I had to stop and take a selfie just to get grounded. It helps. 

My son is an artist. He is building Sonic the hedgehog with paper  mache.  Checkout his you tube channel named Tommy’s Puppet Lab.  He brought his paper mache puppet to craft while visiting us.

The crib games are always on.

 I love making pita chips (and eating them).  Recipe is:

just pita bread sliced into triangles and put olive oil parsley garlic salt oregano pepper on top bake in oven at 400 degrees Fahrenheit for 7 minutes.

Merry Holidays and Happy new Year!

Are u listening?

It is hard to listen to someone.   I mean really checking in with what they are saying.  It’s a good practice.  However,  it’s a good practice if you want to be a better listener   To me, it’s a “art”  not many are gifted at.

To be heard and acknowledged after you have spoken is so kind and people just want to be heard.  

.I look right at them and it helps me to listen better. 

Doodle watercolour angel

This angel is my first doodle with watercolour paints. 

How does she make you feel?   

She is expressing that there is sweetness in this life.